Comments on: Crone Wisdom

By: Angela

Angela — Fri, 24 Oct 2008 12:46:46 +0000

Ketzirah, I like these rules too. It may be time for some reflection on my ethical guidelines.

Cathy, a friend of mine recently recommended this book to me. Two recs means I definitely have to check it out. Thanks!

By: Cathy

Cathy — Fri, 24 Oct 2008 09:50:24 +0000

I would suggest that you check out Donna Henes book “Queen of Myself” where she introduces a 4th archtype for us women who are no longer (or have never been) mothers, but who are not yet crones… http://donnahenes.net/pages/pub.shtml#qbook

By: Ketzirah

Ketzirah — Thu, 23 Oct 2008 16:45:54 +0000

Interesting. We’re both in the same basic boat here, but I’m finding I’m identifying with the “mother” stage, even though I don’t have and am not actively planning on having kids.

I’m definitely finding that I’m no longer a BYT — if I ever was one. I also very much identify with Holly Witchey’s rules, but I also have a few rules that maybe are the new “mother” stage rules for me. Let’s see if I can clarify them here.

1. Lead by example — “kids” see what you do not just hear what you say.
2. Give them chores – “kids” learn my doing for themselves and you need to learn to let them
3. Let them fail – hardest part – failure doesn’t always reflect on you and sometimes you just need to let people fail and then help them learn from it.

While I don’t have kids, I do have many co-workers that I’m expected to mentor and people turning to me for various kinds of guidance. I think these are the three biggest “mother” rules at play in my life in various ways now.